If you don’t read the subreddit, ‘Am I the Asshole?’ then you are currently missing out on the world of the crazy that surrounds us in everyday households. From families demanding one sister give her baby to her whiny sister, to the gem I posted a few issues ago about the woman who decided to wear white to her blind friend's wedding. I mean the *chef kiss of problems that normal people face is better than any celebrity gossip I’ve read in the past decade. Fuck the Kardashian sex tape, I’ll trade that for familial baby snatchers.
I saw a recent one that caught me off guard because I was amazed this guy was even still married with the shit he was pulling. This guy is asking this subreddit if he was in the wrong because he yelled at his wife for having too many hobbies and ignoring his friends and their significant others when he invited all of them over without informing her. Stated that his friends don’t really like his wife to begin with; and in his misguided and misogynistic attempt at inviting the female counterparts over because you know all women are friends just because we have vaginas (See Forced Female Relationships for additional information on that topic). He also informed in his post that she is the only one working, he’s been unemployed for 3 years! So, with her money, she has a lot of hobbies and is getting ready to self-publish two books, and she really does a lot of things that make her happy. Well, he doesn’t like that. When he publicly humiliated her in front of his friends, she lashed out; AS SHE SHOULD.
I don’t quite remember what her response was to his public humiliation, but it was something along the lines of “Well I pay all of your bills!” I mean girl well done. He’s all pissy now because he believes that it was “uncalled” for and that she isn’t paying enough attention to their marriage with the amount and expense of her hobbies. She’s a fucking good woman who works a good job and still makes time for her hobbies and what is this lazy ass man doing, shitting on his wife because she’s more accomplished than he could ever dream of.
What are your thoughts? Mine were instantly…GET OUT OF THIS MARRIAGE. He will have a rude awakening when he must get a job and realize that marriage doesn’t automatically mean shared finances. The “what’s mine is yours” is very much in the past.
What got me about this post wasn’t the blatant misogyny that was quite apparent from the very first sentence of that post, it was the fact that he was mad that his wife for having multiple hobbies.
If you have been around for a while, most know that I love rock climbing, work at a rock-climbing gym and it eats up most of my weekends in ‘send’ season. But it’s not my only hobby and that can be hard for others who love it, but I do have other hobbies. I don’t have any other extreme sports hobbies, but this magazine is a project, but it’s also a hobby. I love researching new topics and writing these posts. I am also a major bookworm. I read around 30-40 new books a year, I journal of course which considering how much I write is like another full-time and daily hobby.
I think it’s great to have more than one hobby because having a plethora of hobbies can stop you from becoming obsessive about one thing. Climbing for example isn’t necessarily a year-round sport unless you live somewhere that has summer all year round, or you are into ice climbing that you can do in the winter months. (Hard Pass for me). So, when I can’t climb, I can focus on my other hobbies. There’s nothing wrong with hobbies if they are productive and add value to your life. Drugs aren’t a hobby (for those in the back). If someone, like a significant other, says you have too many hobbies, then fuck them and leave because we shouldn’t make room in our lives for people who don’t enrich our lives.